Parenting is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world, or at least it should be. Watching our children grow in wisdom, overcome struggles, and bloom under our guidance certainly makes us happy.
But let’s be honest, life as a parent is rarely easy, it is actually quite exhausting. After all, there is a reason why on first days of school, Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram, and all social media are full of messages making jokes about being grateful that the holidays end. Oh, and I don’t find this joke funny at all, and I’m sure most parents don’t. But they show that parenting is wearing. Between looking after our children’s minds and hearts, preparing meals, and generally keeping the household running, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself. It’s easy to burn out. And don’t we know what happens when Mama is tired and grumpy?
Parenting requires you to give so much of yourself, but you can’t pour from an empty cup.
And that is why we parents should find ways to fill our cups and to reclaim the joy! To start thinking of self-care. And don’t you Mama mistake self-care with selfishness.
I’m not talking here about a bubbly bath (although it would be nice too). The best self-care will feed your mind and heart.
A hobby.
Yes, simple as that – cultivate a hobby. It’s one of the best forms of self-care.
Let’s explore why finding a hobby is vital for parents and how you can make it happen in your busy life.
Why Having a Hobby Matters for Parents
1. It’s Essential Self-Care
Hobbies are a way to recharge and reconnect with your sense of identity outside of being a parent.
Glorious motherhood! I believe it’s the most important job in the world. After all, behind every doctor, lawyer, teacher, manager or Olympic gold medalist in the world (men or women) stays his/her mother. But we cannot make it our entire identity. We are separate human beings and while we can give our whole hearts to our children, we still have our own souls and minds to look after.
It’s easy to forget that you’re more than “just a parent.” A hobby helps you rediscover your individuality and brings a sense of achievement and joy outside of your parenting role.
2. It Reduces Stress
Hobbies provide an outlet for stress and help clear your mind. Creative and active pursuits, in particular, are known to reduce anxiety.
I have refreshed my sewing skills some time ago. I am still learning and developing my skills, but the time I spend on projects is the only time I really don’t overthink my life. Not to mention the self-confidence boost when looking at the finished product. Oh, this is exactly the next point:
3. Boosts Your Mental Well-Being
Learning a new skill or diving into an activity you love stimulates your mind. It’s a form of mental exercise that keeps you sharp, improves focus, and increases your confidence.
4. You’re a Better Role Model for Your Kids
Children look up to you. When they see you pursuing something you’re passionate about, they learn the importance of curiosity and creativity. And that is important for their hearts, but they will also follow in your steps, which means soon you will have a buddy to enjoy your hobby with.
5. Bonus Benefit
Hobbies will keep you slim. And it does not only apply to sporty hobbies.
How is that? When you are lost in the world of your hobbies, you will forget all about this yummy chocolate or extra pack of crisps.
How to Find Time for Hobbies as a Busy Parent
Now, I know what you’re thinking: How can I possibly make time for a hobby with my packed schedule? The truth is, even small changes can make a big difference.
1. Start Small
You don’t need hours every day. Start with just 10–15 minutes or look for these tiny pockets of time during the day. It could be extra reading while your kids nap, or while you take them to their extra-curriculum activities. I take my boys to sports clubs and music lessons and this is the time when I do a lot of reading.
2. Choose a Hobby That Excites You
Your hobby should bring you joy, not feel like another task. Whether it’s photography, writing, or crocheting, pick an activity you genuinely look forward to.
There was a time in my life when I decided that it would be good to start running, However, I found it quite difficult to build stamina but I still tried to stick to it to keep this a healthy habit. I used music to keep me entertained, I used apps to keep me motivated. All in vain, getting red and sweaty just wasn’t my cup of tea. Whatever the health benefits it didn’t become my hobby. But walking did! I don’t need music, apps, planners or fancy equipment. I just go out and re-think the day, breathe in the scenery around, and the bonus: most of the time, family can join in.
Which is exactly my next tip.
3. Involve Your Kids
If finding solo time is tough, try hobbies you can enjoy with your children. For my family baking and gardening became the type of hobbies that we enjoy together with other members of the family. Actually, I like baking and involve the youngest boys in this, while Daddy likes gardening and spends a lot of time looking after our garden. Thanks to this we have a lovely vegetable and fruits to eat, and children spend valuable time with Dad learning the secrets of a good gardener, while I try to build a science curriculum around the life of the garden.
4. Make It a Priority
And at the end: schedule your hobby like an important appointment. Treat it as non-negotiable “me-time” that recharges you for your parenting duties. It’s easy with sports hobbies for which we pay upfront, we feel like since it’s been paid and part of the weekly schedule we have to do it. You can apply the same approach to any other activities. Would you like to spend more time making scrapbooks? Write in the calendar, the date and time for this.
Ideas for Hobbies to Try
If you spend some time on my blog you’ll see that I love a good read, tiring hikes, and a little bit of sewing. Together with my hubby, we look after our garden and I occasionally give into baking. But here are a few other ideas for hobbies that fit into busy parenting schedules:
- Creative Hobbies: Painting, knitting, photography.
- Active Pursuits: Running, dancing, walking.
- Learning-Based Hobbies: Taking an online class, learning an instrument or a new language.
- Relaxing Hobbies: Gardening, journaling, or cooking new recipes.
Final Thoughts: Taking Time for You Is Not Selfish
As parents, we often put our children’s needs first—but taking care of yourself is just as important. Developing a hobby is one of the best ways to recharge, reduce stress, and bring joy into your life. Remember, you’re not just doing this for yourself; you’re setting a powerful example for your children about the importance of personal development and self-discipline.
So, what’s stopping you? Take the first step today and reclaim a little time for YOU.
What hobbies bring you joy? Have you discovered one recently, or are you looking to start something new? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
